Sunday, February 2, 2014

Joseph Fielding Smith Lesson 3: The Plan of Salvation

The Plan of Salvation

“…there was a council held in heaven, when the Lord called before him the spirits…and presented to them a plan…”

QUESTION:
What is “the plan”?

ANSWER:
“This plan is to enable the children of God to become like him and have the power and wisdom and knowledge which he possesses.”

“The thought of passing through mortality and partaking of all the vicissitudes of earth life in which they would gain experiences through suffering, pain, sorrow, temptation and affliction, as well as the pleasures of life…filled them with the spirit of rejoicing and they shouted for joy.”

QUESTION:
Why were we so excited to come to Earth?

ANSWER:
“The experience and knowledge obtained in this mortal life, they could not get any other way, and the receiving of a physical body was essential to their exaltation.”

The Fall

The Fall refers to Adam and Eve when they partook of the forbidden fruit and were cast out of the Garden of Eden and from God’s presence.

“The Fall was an essential part of man’s probation…Had Adam and Eve not partaken, the great gift of mortality would not have come to them. Moreover, they would have had no posterity, and the great commandment given to them by the Lord would not have been fulfilled.”

QUESTION: Why didn’t the Lord simply give Adam and Eve mortality in the beginning? Why was it necessary for them to make the transgression and be cast out?

The Atonement

“When Adam was the transgressor of the law, justice demanded that he, and none else, should answer for the sin and pay the penalty with his life. But Adam, in breaking the law, himself became subject to the curse, and being under the curse could not atone, or undo what he had done. Neither could his children, for they also were under the curse, and it required one who was not subject to the curse to atone for the original sin.”

In other words:


A man is walking on a trail, but decides to step off of the path into the dark woods. He falls into a pit so deep and dark that he cannot climb to the surface. He has no way of getting out of the pit himself. Others saw him walk off the path and follow and they too fall into the pit. They call for help and after a while, someone who knows about the hole comes with a ladder and provide the means for everyone to climb safely out of the pit.



The pit is banishment from the presence of the Lord and temporal death. And all beings subject to death, none could provide the means of escape. Then the Savior comes, not subject to the pit, and lowers a ladder. He comes down into the pit and makes it possible for us to use the ladder to escape.

QUESTION:
What did Christ do in order to allow us to rise from the pit?

ANSWER:
He sacrificed himself

PERSONAL STORIES

Christ voluntarily died for us. He suffered immensely.

“The driving of the nails into his hands and into the Savior’s feet was the least part of his suffering.”

We believe that those were the moments of the greatest suffering. But historically, many were executed that way. The manner of his death was not unusual for that time period.

QUESTION: What then, was his great suffering?

ANSWER: Garden of Gethsemane

“I wish we could impress this fact upon the minds of every member of this church: His great suffering occurred before he ever went to the cross. It was in the Garden of Gethsemane…that blood oozed from every pore of his body; and in the extreme agony of his soul, he cried to his Father. It was not the nails driven into his hands and feet. He took upon him our transgressions, and paid the price, a price of torment.”

“THE GRATITUDE OF OUR HEARTS SHOULD BE FILLED TO OVERFLOWING IN LOVE AND OBEDIENCE FOR THE SAVIOR’S GREAT AND TENDER MERCY. FOR WHAT HE HAS DOEN WE SHOULD NEVER FAIL HIM.”

Repentance and Obedience

One of the important principles of the gospel, which sets us apart from most other Christian religions, is our view of repentance and obedience.  They are both absolutely necessary in order to take advantage of the Atonement. We've been accused of not believing in grace because we adhere to this eternal truth.  The Christian world defines grace in a way which makes attaining salvation nearly effortless. 

We do believe in grace, as in we know we could not be saved without it or Christ's gift of grace to us - but we also know we have to do our part:
(see Matthew, Chapter 7)


QUESTION:
Why are obedience and repentance necessary if Christ already paid the price for our sins?

ANSWER:
Part of our purpose here on Earth is to learn, grow, and develop. Running a marathon is difficult and exhausting. You get blisters on your feet and you can barely walk by the end of it. But when you finally cross the finish line, you feel awesome and proud of yourself. Our time on Earth is like a marathon. It’s difficult and strenuous, but all the effort makes getting to the Celestial Kingdom that much sweeter.

Death

"We came into this world to die. That was understood before we came here. It is part of the plan, all discussed and arranged long before men were placed upon the earth. … We were ready and willing to make that journey from the presence of God in the spirit world to the mortal world, here to suffer all that pertains to this life, its pleasures and its sorrows, and to die; and death is just as essential as birth."

The beauty of death is that that person can finally make the transition from the mortal world to the eternal. He or she is leaving behind a world of chaos to enter a greater and happier existence on the other side of the veil.

PERSONAL EXPERIENCES

I love this story told by Dr. Peter Marshall in 1941:

"In a home of which I know, a little boy—the only son—was ill with an incurable disease. Month after month the mother had tenderly nursed him, read to him, and played with him, hoping to keep him from realizing the dreadful finality of the doctor’s diagnosis. But as the weeks went on and he grew no better, the little fellow gradually began to understand that he would never be like the other boys he saw playing outside his window and, small as he was, he began to understand the meaning of the term death, and he, too, knew that he was to die."

"One day his mother had been reading to him the stirring tales of King Arthur and his Knights of the Round Table: of Lancelot and Guinevere and Elaine, the lily maid of Astolat, and of that last glorious battle in which so many fair knights met their death."

"As she closed the book, the boy sat silent for an instant as though deeply stirred with the trumpet call of the old English tale, and then asked the question that had been weighing on his childish heart: “Mother, what is it like to die? Mother, does it hurt?” Quick tears sprang to her eyes and she fled to the kitchen supposedly to tend to something on the stove. She knew it was a question with deep significance. She knew it must be answered satisfactorily. So she leaned for an instant against the kitchen cabinet, her knuckles pressed white against the smooth surface, and breathed a hurried prayer that the Lord would keep her from breaking down before the boy and would tell her how to answer him."

"And the Lord did tell her. Immediately she knew how to explain it to him."

“Kenneth,” she said as she returned to the next room, “you remember when you were a tiny boy how you used to play so hard all day that when night came you would be too tired even to undress, and you would tumble into mother’s bed and fall asleep? That was not your bed…it was not where you belonged. And you stayed there only a little while. In the morning, much to your surprise, you would wake up and find yourself in your own bed in your own room. You were there because someone had loved you and taken care of you. Your father had come—with big strong arms—and carried you away. Kenneth, death is just like that. We just wake up some morning to find ourselves in the other room—our own room where we belong—because the Lord Jesus loved us.”

Eternal Life

All people will receive the blessing of resurrection through the Atonement of Jesus Christ.

“Every fundamental part of every body will be restored to its proper place again in the resurrection, no matter what may become of the body in death. If it be burned by fire, eaten by sharks, no matter what” pg 67

God’s Plan is family centered

“We are taught in the gospel of Jesus Christ that the family organization will be…one that is complete, an organization linked from father and mother and children of one generation to the father and mother and children of the next generation, and thus expanding and spreading out down to the end of time” pg 68

Personal Experience:
One thing that used to bother me before I got married was the fact that I wasn’t sealed to anyone. I felt like I was floating in space and that without that sealing tether I would simply drift away. Getting sealed to my husband brought a great sense of peace and joy. I knew that I was forever tethered to him, and when we had our daughter it was amazing knowing that she was forever sealed to us. No more floating in space for me.

In order to receive the fullness of all of God’s blessings, we must be willing to give up everything, even our lives. We must live with faith, serving others and following the commandments.

“It is necessary for us, in our humility, and in the spirit of repentance, to press on and on; keeping the commandments unto the end, for our hope and our goal is eternal life, and that is life in the presence of the Father and the Son.”


Thursday, January 30, 2014

It's all about the attitude

Tonight I caught throw-up in my hands. It was yellow and slimy and surprisingly difficult to wash off. It was pretty disgusting, but at the same time, beautiful.

Yeah, that's right. Catching my 1 year old daughter's puke was a beautiful moment. Why? Because it's a moment that reminds me that my little girl is the most precious thing I have, that I would do anything for her, even things I would never imagine doing before for anyone else. Like placing my hands under her chin at the moment I realized she was gonna hurl. I didn't even have to think about it...of course I would hold her vomit. I'm a mom. That's what we do. We catch throw-up, we dig out boogers, we kiss slobbery open mouths. We get poo on our hands.



Seriously, I think my life as a mom revolves around messes. If it's not the food thrown all over the floor, it's the wad of paper she managed to rip into a million shreds.

Sometimes, I want to call it quits. On the bad days, I look at my life and all I see is a woman who rarely puts on make up or actual pants, who is a prisoner in her own home with her child as acting prison guard. And on those bad days, I just want to go back to being a free girl with little responsibilities and her Saturdays all to herself.

And it's okay. We're all entitled to our pity parties, to our bad days.

Because there's also the good days.

Like the mornings when Savannah wakes up and I go into her room to find her bouncing all over the crib, giving me that mischievous little smile that I know she must have gotten from me (Oh please help me).

Or how lately she loves sitting on my lap...I don't know why but I just LOVE that she does this. There's nothing that can make you feel more special than the love of your child.

I know that I am her favorite person. I know that she trusts me completely, that she loves me unconditionally, and that she thrives off of every bit of attention that I give her.



I read a blog post today where a husband announced that his wife's job of being a mother is harder than his job at a law firm. While I appreciated the consideration towards mothers, I think that we have to move past this need to feel that we somehow work harder, or our lives are more difficult. Because honestly, I wouldn't trade places with my husband...okay, maybe for a day or two...

Being a mom isn't "hard", it's joyous. It's wild. It's messy, unpredictable, frustrating. It's beautiful.

And while sometimes I want to think that my job is harder than my husbands, I have to really dig deep and accept that it isn't. We simply play different roles, both working to make all of the gears shift correctly, neither of us better or more important than the other.


What I'm learning: The difference between happiness and depression is attitude. Bryce goes to work with a smile on his face (literally) and comes home with that same smile. He never complains, even when he's spent all day in the rain digging a hole, water in his boots, blisters on his hands. Instead he laughs as he tells me how warm the water in that hole was. He is such an example to me, and I'm trying to be more positive when it comes to the "holes" I have to dig each day. I would never degrade his efforts and perseverance by saying that my job is harder.



Heck, I spend every day with the most beautiful face in the world.

If we, as mothers, manage to have the same attitude my husband has, finding the good in the daily chores, the dirty diapers, and the mountains of laundry, not only will we be happier, but our home will be a safer, more loving place.

So bring on the puke! I don't mind getting my hands a little dirty... it just means that I'm MOM. And what better and more prestigious title can you have?


Sunday, January 26, 2014

Why the World Needs Moms

Dear Amy Glass:

It was pretty sad to read your article criticizing the role of motherhood as well as wifehood.

I Look Down on Young Women with Husbands and Kids and I'm Not Sorry

I just have a few things to say to you in response:

** Feminism isn't about degrading a woman for choosing a traditional lifestyle. The purpose of feminism isn't to tell women what they can't or shouldn't do, but to give them the same opportunities as any other person.

** Because I'm positive you don't have children, let me share with you something every mother quickly learns: Motherhood IS work. The only difference between me and you is that I can't reason with my boss, because she's one years old. Not only do I have to figure out what she needs/wants every second of the day, but if I don't get it right, I have to deal with screaming, kicking, yelling, throwing, and tears. I clean one mess up only to be confronted with another. I spend hours researching how to be better at my job because if I fail in my job as a mother, I am responsible for the outcome. I am responsible for raising a human being to be a productive, loving, kind, charitable, thoughtful individual. The worst thing that can happen to you is you get fired. I actually have another person's life literally in my hands. Now, please tell me that a stay-at-home mom is "not on equal footing" with "a woman who works."

** You really don't see marriage and having a baby as a life milestone?? You say it's "the most common thing." If by common you mean that most women are capable of creating human life, then yes, you are right. But if by common you mean insignificant, you are so so wrong. I don't know anything less significant than the experience of having someone give his whole self to you, and you to him, or the first time you feel your child kick inside of you and you realize that there is actually a tiny person in there, or the moment when they finally place that precious baby in your arms and all those hours of the most horrible pain you have ever felt becomes lost in the background of her beautiful blue eyes. You have your whole life to get your dream job or backpack across Europe, but only a short window of opportunity to experience the joys of childbirth, the laughter of your children, and the pride that comes from knowing that YOU did this, that you sacrificed so much, so willingly. Having children isn't "nothing", but everything.

** You say that a woman who is married with children can't get her "dream job" or travel or achieve any of her dreams. In my opinion, you are completely ignorant. My sister has an amazing job that she loves...and guess what, she's married and has an adorable little boy. It doesn't have to be one or the other, and not every dream involves elaborate trips or high paying careers. Why do you feel like women must choose between working and motherhood?? It is people like you who pit working moms against SAH moms. We are all the same, just trying to enjoy life and do what is best for our families and ourselves.

** I just have to wonder what the world would be like if every mother/father just up and decided to stop doing housework. I hate housework, personally. I get so sick of cleaning up the same messes day after day after day. But I do it, because someone's got to! And I've got to laugh because I'm pretty sure that even doctors have to get their laundry done at some point. Dang...I guess even when you go to medical school your clothes don't magically clean themselves. (sigh)

** Men DO think managing the household is important. I know my husband loves to come home to a clean house and a yummy dinner, especially after a hard day out in the cold working his butt off. I just don't get your argument. Someone's got to take care of the home, feed the children, and manage to be awesome the entire time....so who's going to do it if it isn't mom and dad? Maybe you could explain to us all how you manage to keep the house clean??

** Almost every single one of those doctors, engineers, and business people have a mother who loved them, taught them, cared for them, washed their clothes, and supported them to reach their dreams.

So the next time you write an article (which anyone can do by the way....it's completely "ordinary") try not to talk about things that you have absolutely no experience with. Because, quite frankly, it makes you look utterly ridiculous. I'm here to say that the world NEEDS moms, and I applaud every single woman who has sacrificed to become one, because trust me, you always sacrifice something when it comes to being a parent. Motherhood is the ultimate form of selflessness, which obviously you know nothing about.